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“Old” Friends and Digital Dog Years

As you might have seen in the comments on yesterday’s post – life can’t be lived in a vacuum. I’m enjoying having the opportunity during my period of “funemployment” to step back and review the “world” of Personal Networks – and my own personal network.

For my part, I’ve recently done an audit of my Personal Network. Analysing in particular who I knew – and the cross over into social media. During this process, I also mapped out my objectives – and several weaknesses.

1. I am moving my family across the UK to Bath – and I only know a handful of

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folk there. Action – use social media to check out the noise and ask friends if they know anyone who they could intro me to.
2. I’ve got a passion for understanding Personal Networks, I believe there is an opportunity somewhere within – but I’ve no academic background & no contacts on the periphery. Action – write the blog and try to engage with people in and around the sector.
3. I do want to create another business in the next couple of years – but don’t have mentors to help me with that (I’ve spent the last 5 years doing that for others – and forgot myself). Action – go and meet interesting, bright people from all different areas. Find that support network.

Interestingly, the first objective is the hardest. We’ve got out house in Bath (still living mostly in Leicestershire) – but my current close connections are the builders (and jolly nice chaps they are too!). My wife and I are getting out and about – even going to the local quiz nights when we are there on a Sunday evening. However, time is tight – and there is always something to do … and friendships will come slowly.

However, since starting blogging back in July last year – I feel I’m really making process on objectives 2 & 3. In fact, there’s at least one person met on-line who ticks the box for both areas – and feels like an “old friend”! Isn’t that strange? Maybe there are “social media” years like dog years? Digital Dog Years. So 9 months on-line = 3 normal years?

I’ll embarrass my new “old friend” by talking about him a little. Now that will be a test of friendship….

I met Joel D. Canfield when I was given an invited by Seth Godin to join a private network that Seth runs called Triiibes. It was kind of a personal invitation – me and a couple of thousand others. Joel was one of the first people to greet me as I “walked through the door” into this daunting on-line world. He was sincere – and we struck up a conversation. After a day, he took a risk – and sent out the note below to 20 or so of his closest connection on Triiibes:-

a new friend who feels very old guard Phil O’Brien is a new Triiibester; we’ve only just met. But his comments and his blog just might resonate with y’all. He writes about the value of personal networking. He seems like a kindred spirit 🙂

Joel is leading a very different life at the moment – roaming around North America with his wife and daughter. They’re home schooling – and running a virtual business at the same time. He’s living a nomadic life to the full.

We’ve done a Skype call – but essentially our “to and fro” is via email. I can trust him to throw out my thoughts on what I want to do – and he is helping and mentoring me. I’m the proud owner of his book “The Commonsense Entrepreneur” in audio and iPad format – and the writing/ethos shared strikes a cord. Copies of the book are flying out to real-world friends and contacts.

There are also people who I’ve “met” on-line who I hope will be friends. People like Beth Campbell Duke (who was the first person to comment on my blog) and Neal Schaffer (whose LinkedIn book I reviewed). We chat occasionally – meeting for that “digital coffee”.

I’ve also enjoyed making the connection with all the people that I’ve interviewed for the blog – and those that have kindly commented. It’s an environment I like – and I think the transparency of social media makes getting to know people (or at least the basic information) quicker and easier.

Another person I’ve struck up an on-line friendship with is Chris Redmond. He’s a busy international executive (today Moscow – tomorrow Africa!) – but finds time to run marathons, write a blog and twitter. I found a blog post last September that resonated, I commented – and we struck up a conversation. I joined his SuperRedNetwork on LinkedIn – as what he described as a “wildcard”. They’ve made me feel at home – and next week I will meet some of them (plus Chris) for the first time in person at a charity dinner in the UK. Now that will be strange. I wonder if meeting “off-line” will increase or reduce our relationship’s “Digital Dog Years”?

  1. February 9, 2011 at 1:40 pm

    I’ll try and be like Seth and say a lot in a few words! I like your style Phil!

    • February 9, 2011 at 8:45 pm

      Hi Peter – that’s nice. Thank you.

      I aspire to be like Seth – writing excellent books … and very short blog notes.

      “If I Had More Time I Would Write a Shorter Letter” Mark Twain

  2. February 9, 2011 at 4:28 pm

    Hi Phil! My coffee is currently a lovely dark roast from a place just down the road. I can send you some if you’d like – the owners take great pride in their small scale roasting operation and unique environmentally-friendly packaging. If you’re ever in this area, they also run a B&B called “Wake Up and Smell the Coffee”.

    Like you, I’m new to the world of online networking – only really learning about it after leaving my teaching career 2 years ago to relocate and focus on our own businesses – starting my own about the same time you started your blog.

    …I guess I’m not like Seth!

    Take Care.

    • February 9, 2011 at 8:41 pm

      Hi Beth – coffee sounds great. We’re regulars in Lake Muskoka – but it’s a bit of a distance to you for a coffee! We’ll keep on drinking it digitally for now.

      Seth – and Beth. They rhyme – so that’s a start. I like what you write – and I’m sure you’ll be gathering many customers (your triiibe) soon too! Best wishes. P

  3. February 9, 2011 at 5:07 pm

    Shining a spotlight on me like that is more likely to make me do a giddy little dance than to embarrass me, but I suspect you knew that, Phil 😉

    I’m not surprised that a couple people who are fascinated by personal networks clicked so quickly.

    Here’s to online connections turning into real life friendships!

    • February 9, 2011 at 8:37 pm

      Hi Joel. Thanks for so gracefully taking a bow! Cheers to friendships. P

  4. February 9, 2011 at 7:38 pm

    Beth, I’ll bet you’re more like Seth than even your name implies 🙂

    I’ll have to pop by for some of that coffee, maybe even some of that B&B.

  5. February 10, 2011 at 2:33 am

    Honored Phil 😉

  1. February 9, 2011 at 9:56 pm

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